Clapping and pointing

I have just read Tartia, oops, Freudian slip, that would be Tertia’s latest blog post about plastic surgery and what gets people so uptight about when other people do it.  Why do they feel this indignation and self-righteousness that the ‘plastic’ person is so vain/shallow/insecure/unworthy/un-Lordy etc and you are natural and happy with yourselves and just generally superior.  Lordy folk tend to be particularly bad at this one as they do the whole… this is the way He made us story as well as not seeking man’s approval but being whole in His love and affirmation. We all seek approval from man whether it is for our physical appearance, our behavior, character or the work we do.  Some do it more and some do it less and generally age tends to soften the approval addiction we all crave.

Sister T talks about why would you care what someone else is doing to their body as it is out of their own freewill and does not affect you. I agree, if that person is not hurting others or themselves, then let them inject, add, subtract, ink, slim down, beef up to their hearts content. I think if that person is pregnant, then it becomes an entirely different scenario as an innocent party is involved.  Also if the person is hurting themselves like cutting or anorexia or excessive plastic surgery Michael Jackson style then it also becomes a concern and just plain sad really.

I am talking more about the odd nip and tuck here, boobies bigger, boobies smaller, doing the botox number. So what if you do something to make yourself feel more attractive?  Our earthly bodies are temporary and we all know that but life on earth should be about feeling attractive and taking care of our bodies and feeling good about ourselves. For some, this means more than adding a bit of lippy or having a haircut. For some like my sister, it means spending lots of money injecting nasty poison in her wrinkles lines.  Would I do it?  No, too expensive and a little creepy for me.  Do I mind that she does it?  Obviously not, good for her and great for her that she feels gorg and divine. Would I do other surgery, sure I would. (You didn’t think these perky numbers were real did you???)

I know I am adored by God, I know He loves me and He is interested in my character, my soul, my self. I know one day I will die and 2 little heaps of silicone will melt in with the ashes and will not be coming with me. For me, I have many years left on this earth and I want to feel feminine and pretty and be attractive to Gary and to myself too.  God knows this very well and it entirely un-fussed on what I do to ensure I feel this way so long as I don’t harm my body and so long as I don’t neglect what is on the inside, the place where He lives.  Like with everything in life, it comes down to finding the balance and keeping Him at the center so you will never topple over. (Regardless of how big your boobs are!!!)

Comments

[oyunlar]

thanks for the post
good job admin

[heather]

thank you for sharing this. I have been struggling betwwen desperately wanting to do something about the parts of my body I just can't fix by working out, and feeling like I would be going against God/setting a bad example for my kids. I am sure I will continue to struggle with the decision, but i really appreciate knowing that there are people who realize that wanting my body to be better is not all about vanity and selfishness.

[melody]

Sjoe - I hear you on this one. An dead keen on a boob job after breast feeding 3 wee ones. Am a local...just wondering if you used the same guy T did? Am so scared of making the wrong choice surgeon wise....

[Kelli]

I suppose it shouldn't matter what others do to their bodies. But, I can totally see both sides of the spectrum. When I read your and Tertia's blogs, I don't really care what you do to your bodies. It isn't really effecting me in my life in any way. However, were I to see you on a daily basis, I would probably begin to feel self conscious about my own looks. I definitely hate the way society portrays women, the pressures put upon them in this day and age, and wish that things were different. And if I were around a woman my age with children but fake, perky boobs, I'd probably over analyze my own. (Which, naturally, are not so perky! :))

But (of course there's a but!) I will say that since I am someone who likes to do things rather naturally, my choices aren't based upon what others do but upon the many reasons for being the way I am. People with fake body parts may cause me to feel differently about myself, but isn't that part of life? If I'm choosing not to dye my hair/fix my boobs/nose/face/etc. than I probably have a reason for it, and those reasons shouldn't change because someone else decides to make a different decision than I.

As for being a Christian and having plastic surgery/botox/etc., well, I don't have a clue what (if any) would be a Biblical view on the matter. I suppose, like anything else in life, it's a personal matter. Maybe it's fine for one person, but not for another. God has different plans for each of us, and it's not really my place to judge what others' feel is okay in their personal life.

[angel]

i could not agree more. i am going for tattoo number 5 on saturday afternoon and i can't wait. and i fully intend to have a boob lift and a tummy tuck- AT LEAST- one day when i have finished paying school fees and such.

[Jeanne]

I wouldn't have any sort of invasive cosmetic procedure, but that's because I am absolutely terrified!! Unless my life is actually at risk there is nothing that would persuade me onto the operating table. And frankly, some of the people administering Botox, I wouldn't trust to control a shopping trolley. So on the basis of fear, it's a no from me. I have no problem with other people doing it and have quite a few friends who have had various stuff done.

Here in the UK there is an absolute epidemic of cosmetic surgery, and what does make me sad is the number of people who look perfectly normal and healthy, but in their minds they are disfigured and quite convinced that surgery will make them happier. Maybe yes, but most likely no - and there is the risk that the surgery will make things worse for them. There was a horribly fascinating program the other night on TV about designer vajayjays. All these people were going on about how GHASTLY theirs looked, and how they could not live without the surgery, but then when you saw a latex cast, they just looked normal!

Slightly off-topic, can I just say that this new movement not to dye your hair and "embrace your greyness" leaves me cold. Ja, maybe I should be celebrating this outward sign of my "wisdom and experience" (hahahahahah!), but I'm sorry, you live in society, not a vacuum, and society has certain ideas about grey-haired ladies. Mostly bad ideas. Also, my husband didn't sign up to have a prematurely grey-haired wife, and I reckon I do owe him a duty to maintain some semblance of the woman he married.

So however shallow it makes me, I'm married to my Redken!!

[Mrs. California]

Okay girlie, you asked for it. Let's be honest. The "girls" aren't sunny side up. I hear you can't lift them without adding to them and in my eyes, that would just make my 5'3" frame look fatter. If I could have them look sunny side up I just might. From my view (on the downside of 40), I wish, wish wish I didn't have the fear or lack of financial resources for botox. Goodness knows I put my kids's education first or I'd be all sucked and tucked!. I simply couldn't keep up with the upkeep. I barely remember to shave and pick the kids up from soccer practice! My luck, I would get the Mad Cow bovine injection which would leave me brain dead and still with a crevis in my forehead. Or maybe I'd be brain dead with no cracks, which would work for me for about a week. Then I'd be searching again. Heck, I don't even qualify for bangs. I have a cowlick right where my wrinkles show, so that won't work!!! Age gracefully? I think not. I'll fight it all the way with useless situps and over the counter microdermabrasion products! No judgement here. I know God loves me and wants me to be the best I can be. Fight Fight Fight!

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